Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Resisting the Urge to Fill Spaces

Resist the Urge to Fill Spaces After they are Cleared 

When I work with hoarding clients it is not uncommon for me to clear off a space such as the kitchen table only to come back in a week to a cluttered table. I can see the pattern. If I clear off another space, it will get cluttered very soon after I leave. This is the resistance to change.

I think a good technique would be to clear the same spot every time I am there, until eventually it stays clean.

One time when I was getting a massage, one side would become loose and stress free but it was as if it was all migrating to the other side. As the massage therapist continued to work both sides gently I realized that I must not yet have been ready to let go. Same as organizing clients.

As I clear my calendar, I find myself still having the urge to “do” things. Clean the bathroom counter. Make banana bread. Then soup. Then clean out the garage. Then organize papers. Need to keep busy because someone may judge me and say I am un productive.

STOP:
This is the same for people who have issues with food. They feel a little discomfort, indigestion or gas for example. Instead of riding it out they add food to the stomach to try and ease the discomfort. To get over it you have to work though the pain.

My hip is a good example. One Saturday, my left hip which has been the source of much pain for many years started hurting so much I needed to take pain reliever. I iced it, took Epsom salt bath and went to massage during the following week. A week and a half later, I realized that when rotating the hip/leg socket there was no longer a click or block in the joint. Sill pain but freedom of movement. The pain is the body’s way of helping me let go of the tension and learn to walk, sit, be with a new set of rules.

Relate this to hoarding.


We have to recognize all of the avenues of opening so we can be receptive and ready for the next challenges and opportunities that are presented to us.

Monday, January 1, 2018

Yearly Rituals

Yearly Rituals
Staying organized every month of the year sounds like a crazy conundrum- but it’s easier than it sounds. Focusing on doing just one thing every month can help to keep all your belongings manageable. If you don’t focus on just on thing or don’t do anything at all, you will get to a point where everything is overwhelming and you become suffocated by all your stuff. Don’t let this happen to you! Follow the list below of things to do each month and you’ll be organized in no time!
January
ü  Purge holiday decorations
o   Now that the previous year is over, clear out all holiday things to start your year off fresh
ü  Bring in and push out other holiday paraphernalia
o   Switching out holiday things can also keep you on track, especially since you don’t want to celebrate Christmas in July
February
ü  Shred mania
o   Focus on paperwork this month and especially getting rid of paperwork you no longer need
ü  Get a jump on tax return
o   While on your paperwork whirl, start on your taxes to get ahead and organized when the time comes to crunch
March
ü Spring cleaning
o   Now that warmer weather is about, open up the windows and get the Lysol out for a big dose of spring cleaning
ü Clean house party
o   In celebration of your spring accomplishments, throw a party, highlighting your newly fresh home that might even make your friends motivated to clean their own homes.
April
ü  Tackle storage areas
o   Too much stuff you just can live without? Consider putting it in a storage area in order to still own it but it be out of your daily routine
May
ü  Prepare for the great outdoors
o   Start to get summer things ready since its right around the corner. Make sure to stock up on sunscreen, flip flops, and sunglasses for the busy summer ahead.
ü  Plan summer vacation
o   Don’t just be a bum all summer! Plan to do things while you have the time to do them, so that come fall, you’ll have great memories.
ü  Organize kid’s summer activities
o   Alongside your own schedule make sure you schedule some things for the kids, so that they have memorable summer as well.
June
ü  Purge kid’s space before summer vacation
o   Summer can also be the perfect time to purge and clean out all the things that have piled up in the kids room over the school year. Consider donating toys or other things to charity.
July
ü  Yard sale
o   Mom and Dad probably have some things they can get rid of too. Include the whole family in the yard sale, to get the most stuff out as possible
August
ü  Prepare for back to school
o   Those five words all kids and parents hate, but they aren’t as bad as they seem. Having a jump start to the school year can help students be ahead and organized for the rest of the year while also keeping the home life neat as well.
September
ü  Make season switch
o   Sunbathing season is over, so make time to prepare for cool winds ahead. Making an actual switch in season can help to keep all belongings in the right spots so that come December, you don’t still have bathing suits lounging about.
October
ü  Garage clean-up
o   As your last hurrah to warm weather, open up the garage and finally clean it out. When the snow starts coming, you’ll be happy you can park your car in the garage for once.
November
ü  Holiday and gift lists
o   Always feel rushed in the holiday season? Start planning ahead so that Christmas time jitters don’t happen. It also leaves time for certain gifts to get ordered and arrive on time.
December
ü  Relax and enjoy
o   You’ve accomplished so much in the past year! Rejoice and keep your clean streak going into the next year
ü  Commit to New Year’s resolution
o   Make sure to take a couple minutes before the ball drop to make a new and improved resolution list. With a newly cleaned house, things you have had to put off can happen!