Tuesday, January 16, 2018
Resisting the Urge to Fill Spaces
Resist the Urge to Fill Spaces After they are Cleared
When I work with hoarding clients it is not uncommon for me to clear off a space such as the kitchen table only to come back in a week to a cluttered table. I can see the pattern. If I clear off another space, it will get cluttered very soon after I leave. This is the resistance to change.
I think a good technique would be to clear the same spot every time I am there, until eventually it stays clean.
One time when I was getting a massage, one side would become loose and stress free but it was as if it was all migrating to the other side. As the massage therapist continued to work both sides gently I realized that I must not yet have been ready to let go. Same as organizing clients.
As I clear my calendar, I find myself still having the urge to “do” things. Clean the bathroom counter. Make banana bread. Then soup. Then clean out the garage. Then organize papers. Need to keep busy because someone may judge me and say I am un productive.
This is the same for people who have issues with food. They feel a little discomfort, indigestion or gas for example. Instead of riding it out they add food to the stomach to try and ease the discomfort. To get over it you have to work though the pain.
My hip is a good example. One Saturday, my left hip which has been the source of much pain for many years started hurting so much I needed to take pain reliever. I iced it, took Epsom salt bath and went to massage during the following week. A week and a half later, I realized that when rotating the hip/leg socket there was no longer a click or block in the joint. Sill pain but freedom of movement. The pain is the body’s way of helping me let go of the tension and learn to walk, sit, be with a new set of rules.
Relate this to hoarding.
We have to recognize all of the avenues of opening so we can be receptive and ready for the next challenges and opportunities that are presented to us.